When I was younger, the most romantic thought in my head was that someone could love me unconditionally, in spite of all my flaws and faults and myriad poor life choices–so I made that my goal in my endeavors. To be able to love people (friends, family, romantic partners) without conditions. That road? The road of absolute, unconditional, “I will do anything, put up with anything, sacrifice anything for you” kind of love? That road leads to unhealthy relationships. Continue reading On Healthy Relationships: Maybe Love *Should* Be Conditional
Tonight, I’m left wondering: How was Telemachus supposed to feel after his father, Odysseus, returned home–and learned that dear old Dad like… slept with all these chicks and endangered all his crewmates and MAIMED SOME RANDOM CYCLOPS WHO WAS SIMPLY MINDING HIS BUSINESS? Continue reading The Prodigal Father
I used to write, all the time, about whatever sundry topic happened to flit into my brain. As an adult, … Continue reading Taking Simple Joy in Writing: A Reflection
There’s an old wisdom—that we often regret the things we didn’t do far more than the things we did. I’ve decided this sentiment doesn’t apply to kids—it is far better to regret the children you didn’t have than regret the ones you did have.
Sure, sometimes, when my love holds babies (rare that it currently is due to COVID), it does something funny to my ovaries, but that’s simple, basic biology.
However, I am far more than my genetic programming.
Polyglot. Adjective. Definition: Knowing or using several languages. Why not become a polyglot in all the love languages? A few days … Continue reading Live Happily Ever After: Become A Love Language Polyglot
Once upon a time, I daydreamed that I could go back in time–I’d go to college in a beach-side town. … Continue reading The Cost of Finding Yourself
It’s pretty obvious that bad things will absolutely happen over the course of a long relationship: illness, death, random acts … Continue reading What “Marriage Takes Work” Actually Means